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Series 5 of 5: Five Key Core Components of the Business of Your Life

Tue, 10 May 2022 23:27:49 GMT

Series 5 of 5: “Build Clarity”

For me the brain controls all, being worried, concerned or upset means I am not performing in many aspects of my life. The yoyo weight gain and loss, and health issues rear their head. I was amazed how the multiple physical trials of my service career came back to bite me 20 years after retiring. Yes, every time I was not doing what really mattered to me. It started as a little niggle progressively developing to full on pain.

Where there is a will there is a way.

Don’t mess with this saying, it is one of the fundamentals behind a successful fulfilling life. It is such a liberating force because it says yes. Just knowing that “where there is a will there is a way” created many successful people.

You don’t need the doubters of the world telling you that it just couldn’t or shouldn’t be done. Some of these doubters have thought they have had your best interests at heart, they constantly discussed the hurdles not how to overcome them.

If you had followed their directions, you would be poor, miserable, and trapped. You can’t afford to ignore the pitfalls or the problems, but instead you view them as requiring solutions that perhaps alter the strategies you employ.

This means that you can be positive in the face of adversity, you know you will overcome and that you will attract to you the right people with solutions or information. What is valuable is quietly discerning what is important to you and acting on this.

Believe it or not just a few people have earned the right to be fully informed of your important decisions. Yes, others may be aware of your movements but are they aware of your motives. Clarity of your motives is essential otherwise the magical power of “where there is a will there is a way” is distorted to that of the inflexible, driven, and stubborn. Where is the fun or magic in that!!!

A few Buffer self-protection questions to get you started:

Sometimes it helps to have this thought out in advance so you can default to the answers when you are feeling down or overly stressed. Remember, you have had an impact on the planet and its people. Bring good occasions to mind. We all too often focus on the bad events in our life.

Why are you still here wanting to upgrade yourself?
What 4 things you like about your life?
What 4 things that are positive and unique about yourself
What motivates you?
How do you reward yourself?
What is the biggest, best decision you have ever made? Could be work, health, related, training or family related?
Remember how you got your first leadership role, how did it come about? (can be any age)
What one thing other than your career do you recall as important to you and why? Right now! Can be yesterday or a long time ago
Who was/is the three most positive significant person in your life?

Series 4 of 5: Five Key Core Components of the Business of Your Life

Tue, 10 May 2022 23:17:49 GMT

Series 4 of 5: “Build Calmness”

Seeing things for what they really are.

Acting with Calmness in difficult situations, means acting with inner integrity, and inner authority while building the future. This is not a passive approach to life; action is needed, and it needs to be visible. Seeing things for what they really are: then asking

“With what I have, how can I get where I want?

AS Always: The Key Questions

Do YOU create internal Chaos by not believing YOUR Experiences?

Do YOU generate personal anxiety because YOU ignore YOUR soul’s desire?

Do YOU act dependently for fear of being left out – Acting with ever decreasing passion and joy?

If yes, to any of the above: YOU could destroy yourself trying to join a team that does not exist!

YOU could destroy yourself before YOU have even ventured into the world!

Do YOU accept the spread of chaos when others with-hold information?

Do YOU allow anxiety to be triggered in myself when others fail to acknowledge YOUR existence?

Do YOU succumb to people who want to control YOU in a manner that forces dependent behaviors?

A Bigger Simpler Picture

Do YOU manifest order by providing the facts?

Do YOU inspire confidence by clarifying information and answering questions?

Do YOU engage in actions that are interdependently coordinated?

Series 3 of 5: Five Key Core Components of the Business of Your Life

Tue, 10 May 2022 23:09:24 GMT

Series 3 of 5: “Build Communication Skills”

There are 2 basic communication aspects: in your head (Inner) and to everybody else (outer)

Inner: “With what I have, how can I get where I want? Asking this question to yourself offers you opportunity to establish what you might want that finally focuses down to what you really, truly need and want. This opens the door to taking a strategic approach on focus on refinement. Sometimes an inner conversation may start like this:

You ask me who I am, and I wonder what of me, you will understand, if I tell you!

Establishing ways to connect to people can be difficult. Especially if outside of a work situation

Outer: Changing or ending your career can cause major disruption to you or to those around you and can be especially hard for those who are dependent on you. The pain of staying where you are is becoming intolerable, what to do. You need to plan your own escape, commencing collaboration with significant others can be difficult and is important .

Realizing my own incompetency in managing of handing social situations was made clear very abruptly.

“How a Cup of Tea for James nearly did me in”

The strengths and weakness of every relationship I have ever had were brought sharply into focus this week. The daunting prospect of a Cup of Tea for James had galvanized my introspection. It seemed everywhere I looked, I saw people meeting and greeting over ‘Tea’. They did this with such love and intimacy that I was disturbed.

It was too big to wrap my brain around it. Yet far too important to dismiss!! Something was definitely missing from my life. Not the product of abuse rather the absence of community.

I am beginning to realize just how this humble cup of tea changes the world. Its power is in the individual connections it promotes. This is specific not abstract!! Perhaps I could go as far as to say it is “a solution to all 21 ^st Century ills”.

Finally, I was able to understand my anxiety about ‘A Cup of Tea for James’. Now I can make real choices

Oh! Yes, A cup of Tea for James nearly did me in. Acting with Calmness in difficult situations, means acting with inner integrity, and inner authority while building the future. This is not a passive approach to life; action is needed, and it needs to be visible.

It takes a lot of confidence, communication, and calmness to take the time to have clarity in your life and your business

Series 2 of 5: Five Key Core Components of the Business of Your Life

Tue, 10 May 2022 22:56:51 GMT

Series 2 of 5: “Build Confidence”

Defying convention did not come easy to me. I wanted all the opportunities the world and my family could offer. I saw a man walk on the moon and thought why not me. I was an eleven-year-old girl dyslexic who was labelled dumb.

As luck would have it, I could play almost every sport that was available to both girls and boys. (I was the only girl in the street) This set me up to learn stuff, what winning was, how to use time and a whole lot of things about moving, action, changing roles, perspectives, and strategizing.

A fortunate encounter led me to understand my need to ask this question:

“With what I have, how can I get where I want?

This led me to countless learning opportunities. Choosing to study physics not history, did night school to pass English, reading “read faster read better”. I still don’t write well but I do read fast now.

I know you might be bored right now, perhaps feeling trapped and isolated. You have been here before, you choose to do something, you took a path that might have required enormous focus and effort. Sometimes you may have given up freedoms your peers took for granted. So, did I.

Making the transition to a civilian life was not easy, I was often anxious that I would become irrelevant, the distance I felt from my family was terrifying. I kept busy doing stuff hoping the next path / way would materialise. Like a bolt of lightning, I realised I was back to seeing a man walk on the moon. Question time!

Changing your Life is like a Snowstorm.

It is here, finally it has arrived!

Nothing matters other than the successful weathering of the snowstorm,
No amount of wishing can change the lack of preparation,
No amount of blaming others makes it any easier,
No amount of sorrow can change the results,
The lessons are huge and only the survivors can use them,
There is much the snowstorm has in common with everyday life!!

Always Remember: While outer confidence can be faked for periods of time, it takes a lot of communication, clarity, and calmness to consistently feel inner confidence

Series 1 of 5: Five Key Core Components of the Business of Your Life

Sun, 10 Apr 2022 17:03:57 GMT

Series 1 of 5:

Firstly, “Business is not a dirty word!!!”

The definition of the business of your life: Moving in the direction you truly want for yourself and your loved ones. The view of what you could want might be like this. Look at these three views...

Everything you feel, think and do is your business.

That covers your health and fitness, interactions with the key people in your life, your job or business, your finances, your community, your interests’ goals and aims. Defying convention did not come easy to me. I wanted all the opportunities the world and my family could offer. I saw a man walk on the moon and thought why not me. I was an eleven-year-old girl dyslexic who was labelled dumb.

As luck would have it, I could play almost every sport that was available to both girls and boys. (I was the only girl in the street) This set me up to learn, what winning was, how to use time and a whole lot of things about moving, action, changing roles, perspectives, and strategizing.

Changing or ending your career can cause major disruption to you or to those around you and can be especially hard for those who are dependent on you.

Is talking with new people a challenge; this could be particularly so in new social situations? Do you think you are missing key information or really have no idea what you want? Are you concerned or even fearful of your family’s reactions to your concerns? You have always been able to provide, now this is something else to worry about. Perhaps you are not sure what you are responsible for? Or for that matter “What the business of your life is?”

You might be bored, feeling trapped, or have a lack of real meaning in your life. Do you feel anxious because you are becoming irrelevant at work or in your family? Stressed and overworked, feel like there are no other options to create your replacement income. You realise that you may not have the strategies to transform your life.

Unfortunately, the long-term effects for you can include serious health issues, family disintegration, and a loss of desire to live. Living with regret or becoming a burden towards the end of your life is serious. However, the worst-case scenario is you end up having no interests, become mindless, being feeble, or being angry /violent.

So, what are the core the 5 components: a definition of what the Business of your life is, communication, clarity, calmness, and confidence. Considered in isolation each of these has the power to improve your life. However, clarifying how these components work together for you can be used to magnify success in your life and lead to new opportunities.

You may doubt that you have the skills to transform the business of your life or the social skills to form a variety of relationships. Perhaps the center of your discussions has always been workplace challenges.

Realise that upgrading your definition of business is just the 1 ^st step it takes a lot of confidence, communication, and calmness to take the time to have clarity in your life.